Believe in Your Life Story

We often say, “I’ll believe it when I see it.” Now, what if it’s the other way around? Supposing what you see is the result of what you believe? The truth is, your individual story acts as a filter that determines which information you ultimately accept or discard. In this situation, you tend to accept every piece of information that fits your model of reality, while you tend to ignore anything that challenges your view of the world. Let’s look at some examples:

• If the story you tell yourself is that you’re unattractive, you’ll only look for signs to confirm it. For instance, you’ll focus on the rejections you experience while ignoring any compliments you receive.

• If you tell yourself the story that you need luck to be successful, you’ll never do the necessary work to achieve any of your challenging goals. Why bother if you’re guaranteed to fail without the benefit of luck.

• If you tell yourself the story that you don’t matter, you’ll sell yourself short, and you will miss opportunities to impact the lives of people around you (and you’ll miss out on the joy of being able to do so).

I hope you now understand how important your story is. It defines the thoughts you have, the feelings you experience, and the actions you take as a result. In turn, your actions determine what you will (or will not) accomplish during your time spent on earth.